If it is the gentlemans property, and he has the health departments ok. Let him bury his beloved wife and fullfill her last request. He will also be able to be close to her. Who cares what neighbors think. And when it is his time to go be with her, he should be able to be buried right along beside her. This is their home, He built it for their family. There are actually people out there who show respect for the dead and if the property was to be sold after this gentlemans death, there are actually people who would buy the property and show their graves respect and tend to them . I hate that you sir are going through this. My prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. I wish there was more I could do for you. Salt of the earth.